What’s Wrong With Me?

A common response many of us have been conditioned to carry is “What’s wrong with me?” When we’re not bouncing out of bed with perfectionistic vigor, or working a 50 hour week with enthusiasm, or feeling strong and in control, we can find ourselves berating ourselves with the self talk of “What’s wrong with me?”

“What’s wrong with me?” can taunt us when we notice not everyone likes us, or if we feel disinterested in things that we used to feel excitement about. It can show up in our heads when we’re carrying grief and trauma that hasn’t had a chance to be felt, seen, healed, and transmuted. It can be the voice of an internal bully that holds us incarcerated in a perpetual state of “not enough.”

“What’s wrong with me?” can be a self judging, default subconscious response to anything that rocks the boat or tilts the scale or the teeter totter of our lives. And because our lives are lived with such tight schedules and with immense scrutiny, a rock of the boat can feel deeply threatening. As a result, we often block out the Inner Voice and do whatever’s needed to stabilize the status quo, realizing that if the spinning plates fall, a domino effect of deconstruction could be created. (And for some, that’s an experience that holds a lot of perceived danger.)

Maybe there really is something “wrong” but not in the shaming way we’ve been conditioned to think of it. Maybe your body intelligence is finally being heard, and it’s saying “slow down,”or “change your diet,” or “sleep more,” or “bring closure to this relationship or situation.” Maybe there’s a shift or a change that your Soul is requiring. Maybe there’s an unresolved issue or some mistreatment of another that keeps showing up for your attention or restitution. Maybe something is not aligned to your Life appointment and it’s showing up to be noticed, no longer wanting to be shoved into a small shape or a limiting label but wanting love, understanding, acknowledgment, space, and room to breathe and find expression. Maybe you’re just plain tired.

Perhaps what feels “wrong” is a gift that’s been held dormant, a specific value or need, or an honest desire that is knocking on the door of your heart from within, calling out to be heard, honored, seen, accepted, simply because it’s time.

So when you hear your ego shame you with, “What’s wrong with you?” consider this from a different angle. Maybe what’s wrong with you is actually what’s right with you. Maybe a long awaited solution is trying to surface. Maybe a part of your Soul is courageously crawling out of a dark cell and presenting itself to the Light so it can be seen, welcomed, honored, and loved. Perhaps what is first heard as “something wrong” is an aspect of you that’s been suppressed, unacknowledged, weary, or in need of healing and blessed change.

Consider reframing the self-shaming question “What’s wrong with me” by greeting the angst, anxiety, pain, fear, or paralysis you’re feeling with, “Welcome. You’ve come to the right place. I love every part of who I am and will give you a listening ear. Please take a seat. Let’s have a talk. Let’s find a way to align with Peace.”